Bare The Belly- How To Embrace Courage To Do Anything Scary

I wore a belly shirt today.

Before I turned 35, I would never wear a belly shirt. Never ever. Nope.

My midsection was never bare unless I was either at the beach (aka a swimming suit), checking out my abs at home in front of my mirror after making sure no one was watching, or standing in the shower in all my naked glory. It didn’t matter if I was at my thinnest or at my heaviest- for real- I was super self-conscious of other’s judgement.

I thought I had good reason to be self-conscious. When I put on any kind of weight, it would go straight to my abdomen. My hormones would fluctuate and I would have massive bloating. Digestion was a nightmare and I always felt full and puffy. Not exactly stuff that creates massive amounts of sexy self-confidence in a gal.

Overtime, I learned how to depuff the puff and how to banish the bloat. I learned how to lose the weight I needed to make me ready to sport a mid-drift like a rockstar. But alas, I was still self-conscious. That didn’t change and I found myself covering up regardless, if not more.


Does this sound familiar for you? Do you feel depths of emotions that hold you back from enjoying the simple things in life?

I trained my brain to be ashamed. I trained my brain to be fearful and afraid of judgement. I trained my brain to not be proud of who I am, no matter what I perceived that I looked like.

And then a switch flipped- I realized that it was affecting my life way deeper than a superficial ab baring.

What I didn’t realize was how this was holding me back from taking risks and challenging myself to overcome other feats in my life.

I was so wrapped up in the appearance that I was forgetting to flex my mental muscle of living- to embrace the simple joys of life and let go of the fear and numbing emotions that were keeping me trapped in a self-conscious hell. I was forgetting that it wasn’t how my abs looked, it was how I felt by baring them- by having courage to take that chance and walking through the fear!

So, how do you take that step to dare push yourself through the fear and the self-consciousness and begin to retrain your brain for courage and success?

Just do it.

For real! Just do it and do it with a fire and an attitude of utter greatness. You do it with an attitude that you are badass. Embrace your fearless inner child and go for it. Suddenly, you are overcoming your fear and your self-consciousness.


It is the first 15-20 minutes that is the truly the hardest. It is that amount of time that you need to allow your fears to subside and allow yourself to begin creating a belief that you can do whatever it is that you are doing. Get past those first few minutes and you will be more likely to stick with whatever you are trying to achieve. The key is that you have to put one foot in front of the other and just freaking do it.

Time is on your side, baby! Commit to engaging fully and completely in that activity for at least 15-20 minutes and see how your brain begins to refocus. You have to be engaged fully and completely! If your attempts are only half-hearted, then so are the results.

This does not pertain to only your health goals- this pertains to ANY goal that you need courage to conquer. Every day we need some level of courage to conquer the little things in life. Most day-to-day humdrum probably seems super easy for you and that is merely because you have trained your brain to be able to conquer them. It is those obstacles that create an unknown- that create a fear within you. It is those obstacles that I am talking about here.

Just do it. Nike had it completely right and it is exactly why it became their famous slogan. When you take little steps into courage, those little steps open up great opportunities for massive inner growth.


I didn’t just wear it, I rocked that belly shirt today. Despite the fear of doing so and despite the fear of what my neighbors may have said behind closed doors, I did it. And after a few minutes, I discovered something I never truly embraced before. I discovered the incredible bliss of the cool breeze circle and glide across my bare abs. I discovered the warmth and muscular power that the sun penetrating my skin gave to me. I discovered an air of confidence and vitality that I never expected. I discovered a part of myself that was hibernating for way too long!

What about you? Want to go to the gym but you are afraid you are out of shape? Then, vow you will go for at least 20 minutes and then see what happens. Want to take a dance class but fearful that you will look clumsy? Then, commit to staying in the class for at least 20 minutes and notice how you get in that groove.

Everyday is a journey on your path of self-empowerment. You never arrive at the end, rather you continuously place stepping stones to your next phase in life.

Make your next stepping stone one of greatness and undeniable courage and get out there to live this magnificent life. Take that fitness class. Sign up for that race. Implement that meditation practice. Wear that belly shirt!

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The Power Of Why For Creating Successful Habits

I used to think that the hardest question in changing any habit or forming a new habit was asking myself how do I do it. Surely if you didn’t know how to accomplish something then you were destined to fail. What I learned over the years is that that couldn’t be farther from the truth! See, there are many times that I have known exactly what to do in a situation but just couldn’t push myself through taking the steps to change bad habits or create new ones. I could have had those steps written out step-by-step, but it wouldn’t have made a difference. If you have a goal to lose weight, you probably already know exactly what to do- exercise, eat healthier, get more sleep, decrease your stress levels, eat healthy portion sizes. But, let’s face it, even though you know all of those components help you lose weight, then why is it you haven’t done so yet? I just gave you a little clue in that last sentence. Did you catch it?


It’s the Why. If you have not established a Why you are trying to do what you are trying to do, then what is really the purpose of doing it? When you really step back and dive into why you desire a new habit or to change a certain area of your life that drains your energy, you may surprise yourself and realize that your Why that comes from the depths of your heart is totally different then the superficial Why that is in your brain. Heck, you may even find that you don’t care about changing the habit or that part of you after all. Maybe you discovered that the only reason you’re trying to change is because of how it will make you look or because someone else wants you to change. It is easy to be inspired by an article or a podcast or by a great conversation and get this spark of excitement that propels you into this new adventure and transformation. That is all fine and dandy. But, what happens if you get this spark of excitement and you make a declaration that you are dedicated to making change, but you never really establish why you care to make that change. Days, weeks, or months down the road you may find yourself giving up and feeling like you have no willpower and your self-confidence starts to drop. I see that all the time! Honestly, I think that is the majority of people. What is one of the best examples of this out there? New Year’s resolutions. I have been guilty of it myself. The new year starts and I get super excited to establish a new habit and the next thing I know, three months down the road, I have fallen off the bandwagon and feel this overwhelming sense of self-pity and self-doubt to accomplish what I really want to accomplish. Maybe I never wanted to accomplish it in the first place! Establishing what motivates you is so important for long-lasting results and success. You’re probably saying to yourself right now, “OK, I get it, but how do I establish my Why?”


First and foremost, you need to figure out what habit you are trying to create. Maybe it is a completely new habit or maybe it is something that you’re just not satisfied with in your life right now. Once you have that habit in mind, write it down. You need to declare that and present it to the universe and show that you are serious about your intention. Anytime you write something down, it creates a bond between your “interest” and your “commitment” and increases your likeliness to succeed. It also gives you that opportunity to refer back to it anytime you start to feel like you are slipping. Next, it is time to establish your Why. It can get tricky, but your key to establishing your true Why comes from being completely real and honest with yourself. That means tearing away all of the superficial meanings or fears and anxieties you may have. It also means tearing away the layers of your fears that are associated with what others may think. A true Why statement comes from the heart and is created through emotion and truth. It should make you excited and inspired and create a depth of emotion that motivates you to push forward. If it doesn’t, it is not a true Why. You need to care with all your heart! Sometimes, you have to dig really deep and figure out why you were doing something. This can take much longer than just a few minutes. Make sure to write your Why down and, if it helps, write it in different places so you see it often. The key to using your Why to your advantage is making sure that it is easily accessible and you refer to it often, sometimes even daily. This statement is going to be the backbone of your success. It is going to help to anchor you in and give you the support when you are feeling less than inspired.


So, what does this look like?

New Habit:  I want to exercise 4 days a week.

My Why:  I want to increase my amount of exercise because it gives me energy to start my day. The increased energy allows me to play with my children and my children are so important to me. I want to be a parent that is active with them and can get involved in their lives. If I increase my exercise, it will also make me healthier and help me keep my weight down. That, too, will give me more quality time with my children and my family that will last years down the road. I want to be a good role model for my children!

Dig deep: Dig deep into your heart and your gut, that little place that holds your intuition, and feel your Why. Does it feel true and real? Does it feel light and inspirational? If so, you are on the right track!


Action Step:

Take action now! Pick one habit that you are ready to change or begin. Write that down and start to brainstorm your Why. Make sure that you are in a quiet place or a place that allows you to really dig deep inside you. Write it down. Recite that often (many days a week) or refer to it when you are really needing a kick in the butt to stay focused.  Now, share my “Shout And Share” with all your friends to help get them set up for success in their new habits!

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6 Exercises To Balance Your Energy Starting At Your Root

Our everyday thoughts, fears, anxieties, and behaviors are direct links to what is going on inside you. When I say that, I don’t necessarily mean what baggage that you are carrying from past traumas or old stories that you have learned over the years of your life. I mean that they are indicators of imbalances- physically, mentally, and emotionally. They are indicators of stuck energy and blockages that need to be addressed to correct the imbalances. The human body is an energetic being and there are numerous energy portals throughout the body. These energy portals that I am talking about here are called chakras. Chakra is Sanskrit for “wheel” or “disk” and they refer to wheels of energy in the body that are directly aligned to massive nerve centers. You will not actually see this energy, but it does create something called “prana.” Prana is the vital life force (what keeps us vibrant, healthy, and alive) within each of us and when the chakras (wheels of energy) are slow or blocked, it creates a block in our prana (vital life force). When they are spinning too fast and out of control, the excess prana can cause other imbalances on the opposite end of the spectrum. We want to maintain a nice balance. There are seven main chakras aligned along the spine from tailbone to the crown of your head and each contain bundles of nerves and major organs as well as being attached to our psychological, emotional, and spiritual states of being. When one gets backs up, the flow of prana begins to slow and the other chakras begin to get backed up too.


Putting my chakras to the test…

About 3 1/2 to 4 years ago, I went through a personal life transformation that changed my entire being and set me on a new path where I realized I would never be the same. Up until that point, I adopted so many stories from life’s traumas and influences that my fear, anxiety, depression, and lack of self-esteem was at an all-time low. I tried not to show it on the outside, but just getting through my day was a true challenge. I knew that change had to come, but I didn’t know where to begin. I felt clueless. Helpless. Frustrated. Lost. As life has a tendency to direct you to what you need when you need it, I rediscovered meditation and the chakra system. See, I dabbled before when I was in my early twenties. I believe life was bringing me to it to help me heal at that time, but I was too damaged to see and understand fully. So, as life does, it kicked me in the ass again and spun me back around. At that point, I felt heavy and weighed down (emotionally and physically). I easily gained weight, had digestive issues that would not seem to resolve themselves, had lower back pain (no matter how much core strengthening I did), and my energy levels were very inconsistent. I felt insecure, had increasing anxiety, and I was slowly detaching from people and socialization. I was stressed and I knew that my adrenal glands were maxing out. Finding inner peace and stillness was almost nonexistent with my monkey mind jumping all over the place every moment it could. I stressed about finances and never really felt financially stable. When I started to study energy and chakras, I had classic systems of blocked chakras and blocked prana, the most blocked being my root chakra. The root chakra is the grounding chakra and houses primal, basic energy. Located at the base of the spine, the root chakra is the energy center that is associated with your most basic survival needs, including financial stability. I started a very simple practice that involved basic exercises to open up my root chakra, some visualizations and meditations, and a few other detailed tips to stimulate that chakra. My results were life changing. My self-esteem, inner peace, fearlessness, and ability to feel safe and open myself up to people increased immediately. I began to lose weight in those stubborn areas that previously were just not budging. I felt slightly lighter in my step and my energy increased quickly. My anxiety lowered and my depression lifted and my mood began to stabilize. And, over the course of these past 3 1/2 to 4 years, I started to balance out other chakras that have been holding me captive from living a truly abundant life and having the courage to walk towards my life goals. I am not the same girl I was 4 years ago and, 4 years from now, I will not be the same woman I am now. This is a process.

How can it change you?

Tell me if you ever feel like this?

Do you:

  • Deal with constipation or digestive issues?
  • Have chronic back pain or back problems?
  • Feel restless?
  • Feel anger or aggressiveness easily?
  • Worry about money lack and financial stability?
  • Feel insecure and full of self-doubt?
  • Easily gain weight or deal with eating disorders?
  • Feel a lack of abundance in most areas of your life?
  • Deal with sexual dysfunction?

How many of these hit home for you? If you answered yes to more than one of these, you may have a slow or blocked root chakra.


Movement therapy for the root chakra

Focus on activity that is grounding and forces you to put pressure into the Earth. Really, any physical activity will heal the root chakra, but there are specific movements that can speed up your healing. Focusing on balance is super helpful because it increases proprioception, awareness, and stability (remember, a blocked root chakra is all about feeling unstable.) The key is being aware of your movements and your position in space. Here are some of my favorites (and ones that I use)!

tree-pose-389698Tree pose:

Standing tall and erect, shift your weight onto your right foot so that you are doing a single leg stand. Draw your left foot up and place the sole against the inner right thigh, if possible, press the right heel into the inner left groin, toes pointing toward the floor. The center of your pelvis should be directly over the right foot. Press arms up and overhead with palms facing each other and drawing body as tall as you can. Hold this for 10-30 seconds, depending on ability. Change legs.

outdoor-685417_1920.jpgSquat with floorboard push aparts:

Stand upright with your feet shoulder width apart. Allow your tailbone to extend downwards. Lightly, flex and straighten your knees to warm your legs up. After a few repetitions, your legs should be warmed up. Next, slowly lower into a squatting position with your hips pressed back and your knees behind toes. As you lower down, lift both arms upward and overhead. Hold for 5-10 seconds. As you return to standing, take both feet and press down and out into the floor, like you are trying to push the floorboards apart. Do NOT straighten knees completely. This stops the flow of energy. Do this 5-10 times.



Lie on your back with your knees bent and your feet flat on the floor. Raise your hips off the floor so that your body forms a straight line from your shoulders to your knees. Pause at the top for 5 seconds then slowly lower your body back to the floor. Perform 10 times.

collection-1484131_1280Ceiling pushes:

Lying on the floor, straighten your right leg completely. Bend your left knee towards your chest and take a strap, putting it around the arch of your left foot. Extend your left foot towards the ceiling with your foot flexed towards you. Take the strap and slide it side to side on your foot, feeling the warmth stimulate the sole of the foot. Inhale. Exhale as you push your foot into the strap and towards the ceiling, straightening it as straight as you can. Pause. Inhale as your bend your left knee back towards your chest. Perform this 5-10 times on each side. If your leg begins to tremble, that is the energy flowing and opening up. This is a good thing!


stretching-814227_1280Single leg squats:

Shift weight to right leg and balance on the right leg while left leg is extended slightly forward. Squat down until you have about a 45 degree knee bend, all while keeping the left leg elevated off the floor. Keep back straight and right knee aligned with right toe. Hold for 5 seconds. Slowly raise back to start position, Perform 5-10 on each leg.

stretchen-1634784_1280.jpgWide leg forward bend:

Stand with your legs shoulder-width apart and arms at side. Place your feet three to four feet apart depending on your height (taller people should take a wider stance) and rest your hands on your hips. Turn your toes parallel with each other. Engage your core muscles and lean forward as you exhale. Once your torso is about parallel to the floor, extend your arms straight and press your fingertips into the floor directly below your shoulders for support.  Fingertips should be pointing forward. Push your pelvis upward and with support from your arms, slowly lower your torso to the floor. If you can bend far enough that your forearms can rest on the floor and the crown of your head can touch, that is even better! Hold for 10-15 seconds and return to start. Perform 5 times.

What else can I do to heal the root chakra?

The root (1st) chakra responds quite nicely to physical exercise, more than say the 6th or the 7th. But, those are not the only ways you can balance that energy and heal your symptoms. There are other ways that you can increase your healing that involve color therapy, the foods you eat, aromatherapy, affirmations, and simple tactics that you can infuse in your day to effortlessly balance your root throughout the day. Talking about those tips here would make this blog way too long!

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Action Step:

Take action now! Could you relate to any of these questions above? Do you feel that you need to open up your hips and your energy to start to allow more balance physically and mentally? Perform the above exercises every day for the next 2 weeks and note any changes that come up in your day to day life and in the way you feel mentally and emotionally. If you have any questions how to perform any of the exercises, please feel free to contact me! Now, share my “Shout And Share” with all your friends to help get them balanced and feeling more vitality and wellness!

Go to the comment section. Make a comment and let me know what you have struggled with, what you have tried, and what your action plan is. The best discussions start between like-minded friends! Share this with your friends and get more people in on the action.

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